In Denmark, happiness comes from equality; in Singapore, happiness comes from the rule of law; in the slums of Calcutta, India, happiness comes from the hearts of people that depends on eachother.


It is not difficult to see, whether a personis happy or not, largely depends on two aspects. One is external, that is the social environment we live in; the other is internal, that is our personal attitude to life. Today, we( Chinese people) are not happy, also can be analyzed in several aspects.

1. Lack of faith (beliefs)


Most people do not know what the expectation sare in one's whole life, simply put it, you do not know what you want. Confucius ate coarse rice, drank water, didn't even have pillows when sleeping and used his arms as pillows, but Confucius said," Happiness is within"; He said," A basket of cooked rice, a ladle of water, livingin the ghetto alley", others might think this is an unbearable life, but Confucius was able to" keep his happiness". Why? Because he knew what he is pursuing in this life.


2. Always comparing


Western saying goes, Whether a person is fortunate or not, happyor not, does not depend on how big of accomplishment she has achieved, but from the way how the neighbors look at them. When what we are pursuing is not happiness, but to be happier than others, then happiness will be even further away from us.


3. Living in happiness without realizing it


If a light has been constantly lit, you will not pay attention to it, but if it is brighter and darker at times, or if it is on and off at times, you will notice. Similarly, sometimes we are envied by others, but we hardly notice it. Only if one day we loss that, then we will realize.


4. Not moved by beautiful things


" The spring wind is so selfless, not asking for anything in return but blossomed millions of flowers." We may not have the ability to create beauty, but have we been appreciating the beauty of nature, or the beautiful things created by others? We often ignore and unaware of the natural beauty, artistic beauty, spiritual beauty and many beautiful things in life around us.


5. Do not know how to give


Zhang Shangying from Song dynasty said," Nothing is happier than being happy of doing good deeds", only a person who how to give rather than just take can be truly happy. Charity is not aprivilege of the rich. Donating millions to disaster relief ischarity, give as tranger a smile is also charity.


6. Not being content


How much does a person need to be satisfied? Never enough!


When you are not happy because you don't have shoes, have you noticed those who do not have feet? Contentment brings happiness.


Harold Albert is the academic director of the University of California. Once he walked on the streetfull of dissatisfaction and confusion because he had already lost his job and was looking for new work. He walked in the road like a depressed person, completely lost confidence and courage.

Harold Albert是加州大学的教务处主任。有次,他曾满怀不满和困惑地走在街头,因为他丢了工作,在找新的工作。他走在路上像个沮丧的人,失去了信心和勇气。

Just then, a man with no legs came, sitting ona small wooden platform which was attached with wheels from old skates. Hecarried 2 pieces of wood and wheeled himself across the street.


When Harold saw him, he had just crossed the street, trying toraise himself a few inches to get on the pavement. Harold's eyes methis, the disabled man said happily," Good morning! Sr. Nicemorningweather, is not it?" At the time Harold felt a strange sense of satisfaction. He thought, I have 2 legs, he has no legs, but heis so happy, what reason do Ihave to be upset? So Harold became more confident, and went on happily.

Harold发现了他,他刚穿过街,试着把自己举高几英寸以登上人行道。他们四目相对,那个残疾人高兴地说:“早上好!早上天气真好,不是吗?”这时 Harold感到一种莫名的满足。他想,他有两条腿,而他却没有腿,但他仍然开心,他又有什么理由心烦呢?所以, Harold变得更加自信,快乐地生活着。

7. Anxiety is everywhere


Anxiety of safety, wealth, health and anxiety of children's education and employmentOnly a person who is care free can be happy.


8. Too much pressure/ stress


Political pressure, pressure from work, family, emotional stress, financial stress, interpersonal pressure, psychological pressure and physical pressure.


9. Standards are too high


Using person's own standard to demand others" If I can, why can't you?"


Using other's standard to demand oneself," If he can, why can't I?"


10. Not being oneself


A person who becomes a good son, a goodhusband, a good father, agood friend, a good partnerbut if a person cannot become someone that himself/ herself desires, always fighting with oneself, then this person has no balance, and naturally, it is difficult for him/ her to be truly happy.